非凡的家庭教育

星💥光

文/宇亮

Article by Yu Liang

父亲十三岁时写过几句话

大志满天下

独步半边天

欲作丹青妙

雄照群生处

后来发表在《艺术日志》里

这也许就是他的人生写照吧

Father wrote a few lines when he was thirteen years old.

Great ambition fills the world.

Walk alone and rule half the sky.

Desire to create wonderful paintings.

Shine brightly among all beings.

Later, it was published in "The Art Journal".

Perhaps this is a portrayal of his life.

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Special thanks to Mr. Ji Xiaohua, the founder of Wall Street TV in the United States.

　　哪吒2票房取得巨大的成功，把一个籍籍无名的卧薪尝胆的四川籍导演饺子先生一夜之间推向了世界顶级动漫导演的位置。

这件光芒四射的励志事件百分之百的告诫我们一个事实，无论在任何时候，当我们面对巨大的困难时，都要保持一颗积极向上的决心，永远不要向现实低头和投降，任何困难都只是暂时的。所以，作为年轻人，我们一定要相信通过自己不懈的努力将来一定会有所为。

作为父母，也要坚信自己的孩子将来一定会有所作为。即便一个人没有任何的耀眼背景，但只要努力做出一件非凡的贡献就完全可以改天逆命。不管是顶级富豪还是贫民的孩子都需要付出绝对的努力，为社会做出一定的贡献，才能够富可为继，贫可改善命运。

所以拥有一颗平实的心态平静的去看待人生是很重要的，让得意忘形的人铭记生活从来没有高枕无忧的永恒，也让生活条件跌入谷底的穷人铭记生活没有一成不变的规则。无论贫富都需要永恒不变的努力和勤奋，这是保持持续发展的唯一可行性。

这里需要特别强调的是，父母坚定改变命运的信念意识决定孩子未来的顺利成长。

就拿我自己来说，如果没有父母的清醒头脑，我会因为每次考试不够理想而烦恼，会因为父母不支持自己的各种开销而愤怒。我今天取得的一点成绩，是父母用最大的包容心融化了我这个年龄思想的不成熟。从小亲身体验了父母大爱的心灵，见证了他们是如何持续不断的奋斗的，见证了他们是如何胸怀天下的。这对年幼的我来说从不可思议到理解，从理解到钦佩，从钦佩到尊敬，从尊敬到崇拜，这是需要一个漫长的过程去感悟的。

因此，我从来不会因为在学校考试不理想而沮丧，也从不会因为父母对自己的不理解而叛逆。相反，我今天年少成名，就是因为衷心追随和绝对配合父母的共同努力一起奋斗而成就了今天的壮举。

从小我就知道我的祖父是很励志的，我的爷爷也是很励志的，到我父亲这一辈，更是非常励志的。父亲对研究学问的严谨程度无可挑剔，父亲做事的风格言出必行，父亲的勤奋和努力是超负荷的。

父亲是一个很重感情的人，对出生的故土和早已驾鹤西去的父母怀念是强烈的。父亲对朋友是真情流露的，一旦认定一个人就成天念念着这个人的名字，神情满是思念。父亲对亲人是充满感激的，始终铭记哥哥姐姐曾经对自己的好。父亲对家人是严厉的 ，认为良好的家风很重要。父亲的思维是非凡的，他常常以不可思议的思维突破一些常人看起来不可能改变的事情，一旦决定便可行动成功。父亲从来不是一个大男子主义者，凡是总是谦虚的向每个人请教，无论男女老幼和高人普通人，这也让他非常受人们欢迎。父亲是一个耿直的人，说话做事从来没有让人费尽心思去揣测，总是直来直去，这又让很多人对他信心十足。父亲与人交流，语言极富哲理，让人回味无穷，这就是他人缘结神的原因。他总是力所能及的帮助遇到困难的人，这已经成为他举手之劳的常态。

他有一颗非凡的头脑，对自己的要求总是很高，只要能够想到的新奇念头，就一定有结果，非常果断灵活。父亲耀眼的气质照亮了我的生活，是我一路前行的一束光，同样也是很多反应快速的人的一盏明灯。

我的总结是，父亲从来不焦虑，不情绪化。他与很多陌生人形同熟人，总是在第一时间让对方心里温暖，给人送去斗志，很智慧的指引别人向高处挑战。在我的意识里，父亲总是充分的发现别人的优点，总希望别人发现自己的优点和相信自己的优点。这让他又赢得了很多朋友。

父亲对子女的教育是非常严格的，但是教育的方式却是非常智慧的，很令人心动和信服。我见识了父亲的思维时时刻刻都在更新中，让人总是把握不住他下一秒又会说出什么新鲜的想法来？更搞不清楚下一刻他又会投入哪一项工作？他每天千奇百怪的思维转换永远让人难以捉摸。

父亲每周会给我们开家庭会议，让每个人尽情的说出个人的观点和想法，我认为父亲是一个一流的演说家，你提出的任何问题，他都会做到秒反应。这就是我的家庭的日常动态。

父亲始终用高度的艺术审美感化着我们的心灵和社会上形形色色的人，他那么的惜时如金，因为他有永远做不完的工作，但是他还是静下心来很认真的关注每个需要帮助的人的诉求，帮助别人排忧。

因此，父亲得到了联合国教科文组织官方项目博物馆的表彰成为了美育杰出贡献名师，同时还取得了中国科学院心理研究所心理咨询师的权威认证。

父亲总是说：一个人有多少能力就要去做多少事。父亲是全世界最年轻的艺术家中获得世界顶级艺术殿堂终身艺术成就奖的创造性艺术家，他把传统的高度审美和现代的高度审美与他探索的异度空间的高度审美不断的传递给众人。他认为，美是可以净化一个人的心灵的，这是人们向善与和睦相处的基础。他认为教育首先是心灵的教育，知识和技术是其次。我认为这是很正确一种教育方式。父亲对我们说将来要把这些教育理念扩大普及力度，让更多的人受益。父亲常用共勉与人们取得共同进步。这，就是我的父亲。

父亲早年时培养的学生考取名校的很多，但父亲认为，这些学生后来都无一成才。并总结了教训，千篇一律的传统艺术教学是学生没有取得创新成果的根源。于是，父亲不再涉及高考艺术教育，转而投入精力在逻辑思维教学上，我和妹妹就是最早接受这种奇妙思维教育的实践者。

我还记得父亲最好的大学教授曾经问过父亲：“孩子才六岁，你给孩子讲的这些知识，孩子能听得懂吗？连我都听不懂！这样教育真的有效吗？你这是不是在拔苗助长啊？”还有电视台的一个领导对父亲说过：“你们看的这些书籍，我听都没听过说过哟”，后来父亲对母亲说：“为什么一定非要别人懂？我懂就行！”

几年后，父亲让我的学习正式投入实战，起步就进军国际顶尖平台，并已在书法、科幻文学、科技创新、演讲、思维和声乐等领域取得五十多项大奖，尤其是在创新领域取得的全球顶级思维权威认证给我的学习生活带来的影响力。这是父亲独特教育的成功。

父亲本身就是一个始终喜欢自我挑战奇迹的人，如今为了我们，所挑战的领域越来越宽越来越广。他说：只有他自己先做到了，才能够把握我们的学习方向。父亲已经习惯了挑战性的学习和工作，认为知识越广阔，钻研越深入，技能越精湛，人的思维也就变得越来越活跃。他说为此他用了近二十年的时间坚持不懈的锻炼自己的脑力和对各种事物的辨识度。据父亲自己回忆，他判断大事物和判断大事物的发展从来是精准无误。根据近八年来父亲让我们参与的各种社会实践中，确实做到了精准判断。

有领导曾问父亲是如何做到与世界各地的人沟通的？父亲说：“闭着眼睛与世界进行神交”。跟在父亲贴身的观察，这话好像没错，父亲总是第一时间准确判断地球另一端的人们心理动向和事物的发展动向。如果近距离交往，别人的心思基本上是藏不住父亲的火眼金睛的。每当我处于疑惑时，接着而来的事实又很快的颠覆了我的认知。

父亲做事目标明确，正如他自己说的自己从来没浪费过时间。处事通情达理，他说做人良知永远是第一位。

太多的人惊叹父亲就是一部很传奇的人生，常有人建议父亲把自己的经历写成书。后父亲对我们说：这不是他该关心的事，他的任务是创造奇迹和享受这种奇迹发生的过程，而不是浪费时间去做这些个没有意义的事情。

父亲的每一天都在学习、研究、探索和投入实践，仿佛他的人生就是永远为进行着创造而生。我一路感受到这种强烈的创造给我们的人生成长带来了无穷无尽的新鲜感，也许这就是奋斗的意义吧。

2025年2月16日

　　The box office of Ne Zha 2 achieved great success, pushing Mr. Jiaozi, an unknown and persevering director from Sichuan Province, to the position of a world-class animation director overnight.

This shining and inspiring event warns us one hundred percent of a fact that no matter at any time, when we are faced with huge difficulties, we must maintain a positive determination and never bow or surrender to reality. Any difficulty is only temporary. Therefore, as young people, we must believe that through our unremitting efforts, we will surely achieve something in the future.

As parents, they should also firmly believe that their children will surely achieve something in the future. Even if a person has no dazzling background, as long as they make an extraordinary contribution through efforts, they can completely change their destiny. Whether it is the children of top tycoons or the poor, they all need to make absolute efforts and make certain contributions to society in order to be able to continue to be rich or improve their fate if they are poor.

Therefore, it is very important to have a calm and plain mindset to view life. Let those who are carried away remember that life has never been worry-free and eternal, and let the poor whose living conditions have hit rock bottom remember that life has no unchangeable rules. Both the rich and the poor need constant efforts and diligence, which is the only feasibility for maintaining sustainable development.

What needs to be particularly emphasized here is that parents' firm belief and awareness of changing destiny determine the smooth growth of their children in the future.

Take myself as an example. Without my parents' clear minds, I would be troubled by every less-than-ideal exam result and angry because my parents did not support my various expenses. The little achievements I have made today are because my parents used their greatest tolerance to melt the immaturity of my thoughts at this age. I have personally experienced my parents' great love since childhood, witnessed how they have continued to strive, and witnessed how they have held the world in their hearts. For the young me, it has been a long process to go from being inconceivable to understanding, from understanding to admiration, from admiration to respect, and from respect to worship.

Therefore, I have never been depressed because of the unsatisfactory exam results at school, nor have I ever been rebellious because of my parents' lack of understanding of me. On the contrary, I became famous at a young age today precisely because I sincerely followed and absolutely cooperated with my parents' joint efforts and struggles to achieve today's feat.

　　Since I was a child, I have known that my grandfather was very inspiring, my grandpa was also very inspiring, and in my father's generation, it was even more so. My father's rigor in academic research is impeccable. His style of doing things is that he always keeps his word. His diligence and efforts are overwhelming.

My father is a very emotional person. His longing for his native land and his parents who have passed away is intense. My father is sincere to his friends. Once he recognizes someone, he keeps thinking about this person's name all day, and his expression is full of missing. My father is grateful to his relatives and always remembers the kindness his elder brothers and sisters once showed him. My father is strict with his family, believing that a good family tradition is very important. My father's thinking is extraordinary. He often breaks through some things that seem impossible to change for ordinary people with incredible thinking. Once he decides, he can act successfully. My father has never been a male chauvinist. He is always humble to ask everyone for advice, regardless of men, women, old and young, and experts or ordinary people. This also makes him very popular. My father is a straightforward person. He never makes people rack their brains to guess when speaking and doing things. He is always direct, which makes many people have full confidence in him. When my father communicates with others, his language is extremely philosophical and leaves people with endless aftertaste. This is why he is so popular. He always does his best to help people in trouble. This has become his normal practice.

　　He has an extraordinary mind and always demands a lot from himself. Whenever he has a novel idea, there will definitely be an outcome. He is very decisive and flexible. My father's dazzling temperament has illuminated my life. It is a light for me to move forward all the way and also a guiding light for many quick-reacting people.

My conclusion is that father is never anxious or emotional. He treats many strangers as if they were acquaintances and always warms their hearts at the first moment, giving them fighting spirit and guiding them wisely to challenge higher places. In my consciousness, father always fully discovers the strengths of others and always hopes that others will discover and believe in their own strengths. This has won him many friends again.

Father is very strict in the education of his children, but the way of education is very wise and very attractive and convincing. I have witnessed that father's thinking is constantly updated. People can never grasp what fresh ideas he will come up with in the next second? It's even more unclear which job he will be engaged in next moment? His strange thinking transitions every day are always elusive.

Father holds a family meeting for us every week, allowing everyone to express their personal viewpoints and ideas to their heart's content. I think father is a first-class orator. For any question you raise, he can respond instantly. This is the daily dynamic of my family.

Father has always influenced our hearts and all kinds of people in society with a high degree of artistic aesthetics. He values time as precious as gold because he has endless work to do, but he still calms down and seriously pays attention to the demands of each person in need of help and helps others solve their problems.

Therefore, father was commended by the official project museum of UNESCO and became an outstanding contributing teacher in aesthetic education. At the same time, he also obtained the authoritative certification of a psychological counselor from the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences.

Father always says: One should do as much as one's ability allows. Father is the youngest artist in the world to receive the Lifetime Artistic Achievement Award from the world's top art hall as a creative artist. He constantly conveys the traditional high-level aesthetics, modern high-level aesthetics, and the high-level aesthetics of the other-dimensional space he explores to everyone. He believes that beauty can purify a person's soul, which is the basis for people to be kind and get along harmoniously. He believes that education is first and foremost the education of the soul, and knowledge and skills come second. I think this is a very correct way of education. Father told us that in the future, these educational concepts will be expanded and popularized to benefit more people. Father often encourages mutual efforts to make common progress with people. This is my father.

In his early years, many of the students father trained were admitted to prestigious schools. But father believed that none of these students became successful later. And he summed up the lesson that the uniform traditional art teaching was the root cause that students did not achieve innovative results. Thus, father no longer involved in art education for the college entrance examination and instead devoted his energy to teaching logical thinking. My sister and I were the earliest practitioners to receive this wonderful thinking education.

I still remember that the best university professor of father once asked him: "The child is only six years old. Can the child understand the knowledge you tell the child? Even I don't understand! Is this kind of education really effective? Are you spoiling the child by doing this?" And a leader of the TV station said to father: "I have never even heard of the books you read." Later, father said to mother: "Why does it have to be understood by others? As long as I understand it!"

　　A few years later, father made my study officially go into actual combat. I started to enter the international top platforms and have won more than fifty awards in fields such as calligraphy, science fiction literature, technological innovation, speech, thinking, and vocal music. Especially the global top-level thinking authority certification obtained in the field of innovation has had an impact on my study life. This is the success of father's unique education.

Father himself is a person who always likes to challenge miracles. Now, for us, the fields he challenges are getting wider and broader. He said: Only when he achieves it himself can he grasp the direction of our studies. Father has been accustomed to challenging learning and work. He believes that the broader the knowledge, the deeper the research, the more exquisite the skills, and the more active a person's thinking becomes. He said that for this, he spent nearly twenty years constantly exercising his brainpower and discrimination of various things. According to father's own recollection, his judgment of major events and the development of major events has always been precise and correct. Based on the various social practices that father has let us participate in in the past eight years, he has indeed made precise judgments.

Some leaders once asked father how he managed to communicate with people from all over the world? Father said: "Communicate with the world with closed eyes in a spiritual way." Observing closely by father's side, it seems that this statement is correct. Father always accurately judges the psychological trends and the development trends of things of people on the other side of the earth in the first place. If in close contact, others' thoughts basically can't hide from father's piercing eyes. Whenever I am in doubt, the subsequent facts quickly subvert my cognition.

　　Father has clear goals when doing things. Just as he said himself, he has never wasted time. He handles affairs sensibly and says that conscience is always the first in life.

Too many people are amazed that father has a very legendary life. People often suggest that father write his experiences into a book. Later, father told us: This is not something he should care about. His task is to create miracles and enjoy the process of such miracles happening, instead of wasting time doing these meaningless things.

Father studies, researches, explores and engages in practice every day. It seems that his life is always for creation. I have felt all the way that this strong creation has brought endless freshness to our life growth. Perhaps this is the meaning of striving.

February 16, 2025

　　作者简介：宇亮。中国艺术联盟东部地区主席，世界艺术中心思维联盟主席。国家一级协会音乐教育专业委员会终身委员，全国唯一书法研究院终身研究员。中国政府奖百花奖最高奖金星，中国国际巅峰学术展金奖，意大利威尼斯政府国际艺术组织委员会主席最佳创意奖，联合国教科文组织总部杰出奖，西班牙国际艺术大赛金奖，美国国际顶级艺术大师奖得主，法国国际艺术大赛大师级思想奖，世界艺术中心百国思维总决赛一等奖，联合国总部佳作奖。截止目前曾在书法、思维、艺术、科技、科幻等顶端国际大赛中获五十余次大奖。是世界艺术中心公布的世界上最好的十位亚洲艺术家之一，名字列入世界70个国家的全球50位最佳当代艺术家名单。全球百家媒体报道。美国华尔街卫视特别报道。

　　Author Profile: Yu Liang. Chairperson of the Eastern Region of the China Art League, Chairperson of the World Art Center Thought League. Lifelong member of the Music Education Professional Committee of the first-level national association, and lifelong researcher of the only calligraphy research institute in the country. Winner of the Golden Star, the highest award of the Hundred Flowers Award of the Chinese government, the Gold Award of the China International Peak Academic Exhibition, the Best Creativity Award of the Chairman of the International Art Organization Committee of the Venice Government of Italy, the Outstanding Award of the Headquarters of UNESCO, the Gold Award of the International Art Competition in Spain, the winner of the International Top Art Master Award in the United States, the Master Thought Award of the French International Art Competition, the first prize of the World Art Center Hundred Nations Thought Finals, and the Excellent Work Award of the United Nations Headquarters. Up to now, he has won more than fifty major awards in top international competitions such as calligraphy, thinking, art, technology, and science fiction. He is one of the top ten best Asian artists announced by the World Art Center and his name is included in the list of the 50 best contemporary artists in the world in 70 countries. Reported by hundreds of media worldwide.Special Report by Wall Street TV of the United States.