<h3><span style="color: rgb(217, 33, 66); font-family: 微软雅黑; font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; white-space: normal; widows: 1; background-color: rgb(247, 247, 247);">真正富养孩子的，并不是物质，而是精神。</span><br></h3> <h3>01</h3><h3><br></h3><h3>“穷家富养”的背后，是父母的焦虑</h3><h3> </h3><h3>昨天在微博上，看到了一个引起网友激烈讨论的话题。 </h3><h3>一位妈妈因为给儿子买了一双1299的鞋，和老公发生了争吵。 </h3><h3>事情是这样的，他们夫妻每月的月收入是8000，每月需要定期还3000的房贷，养车2000元，还需要抚养两个老人和孩子。</h3><h3>算来算去，一家人每个月的生活费不到3000。 </h3><h3>而她昨天带孩子去买鞋的时候，为孩子买了一双1299的鞋，为此，老公觉得她没有考虑实际情况。 </h3><h3>可是她却觉得，“穷谁也不能穷孩子，要买就要买最好的！”</h3> <section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有网友看到后说：</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“一个月3000的生活费，还买1299的鞋，是要准备全家人这个月都吃土吗？别打肿脸充胖子”。 </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但也有网友说：“就一个孩子，为何不给孩子最好的？”</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">网友的激烈讨论，让我想起之前看过的一个新闻。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一对四川的父母，他们每个月的月收入是5000，却将孩子送进了当地最贵的私立幼儿园。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">为了和幼儿园的家长一样，他们更是借贷了20万，买了一辆宝马来接送孩子。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">让人惊讶，究竟什么样的心理，会不惜用借贷的方式，让孩子过上富二代的生活？</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">其实，这些“穷家富养”的家庭背后，是父母的焦虑。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">之所以选择富养，是因为我们害怕孩子输在起跑线。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">害怕孩子的未来落后，从而用富养的方式，拉近孩子间的差距。</span></h3> <section class="" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 50px; height: 50px; vertical-align: top; overflow: hidden; background-position: 50% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: contain; background-attachment: scroll; background-image: url("https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/xTobqJDEK8Ro3hv6iclaZhvNtcsJWCads3xpzVsYY465ZLiaBcoEHbBr1OQgFRILdBBJxBSLGh7WEI1CkOMHomFg/640?wx_fmt=png"); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-top: 15px; max-width: 100%; transform: translate3d(3px, 0px, 0px); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 20px; color: rgb(228, 108, 108); line-height: 1; letter-spacing: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-shadow: white 1px 1px, white 1px -1px, white -1px 1px, white -1px -1px, white 0px 1px, white 0px -1px, white 1px 0px, white -1px 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">穷家富养，只会养出</span></strong></span><strong style="letter-spacing: 2px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">不懂感恩的孩子</span></strong></h3></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></h3><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“穷谁不能穷孩子”，会让孩子变成了平民中的“富二代”，这样错误的养育观念，会让孩子误以为，自己就是富二代。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">时间久了，就会滋长孩子的虚荣心，让孩子喜欢攀比，什么都想要最好的。</span></strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">前段时间，看到一段令人心寒的新闻。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一名女孩，要去大学报到，不顾家里实际经济情况，要求父母为自己买“苹果三件套”，并称，要做头等舱去上大学。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">父母想让她做火车，可她死活都不愿意，还对父母说：</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“我一个人坐火车，会遇到很多贼，我从来都没有做过头等舱，让我体验一次会死吗？”</span></section> <section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">最后甚至威胁父母说：“如果不同意，我就不上大学了。”</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">父母被逼无奈，只好满足她的要求。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">穷家富养的结果，就是孩子不在乎父母有多辛苦，只知一味地索取。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">朋友的舅舅到了40多岁，妻子才生下了一个孩子，因为是老来得子，夫妻俩对孩子宝贝得不行。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子要什么给什么，孩子想干什么都允许。</span></strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">结果导致孩子要求越来越高，要的东西越来越贵。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section> <section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">今年8岁的他，想让爸爸给他买一台苹果笔记本，可是夫妻两人的月收入加起来，还不够买一台。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“穷家富养”，本是出于对孩子的爱。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但我们越是“穷家富养”，孩子就会越不知足，虚荣心越强。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他们不理解父母的不易，也不在乎。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他们认为父母就该给自己最好的，自己就配享受最好的。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></strong></span></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这样的“富养”，何尝不是一种悲哀。</span></h3> <section class="" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 50px; height: 50px; vertical-align: top; overflow: hidden; background-position: 50% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: contain; background-attachment: scroll; background-image: url("https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/xTobqJDEK8Ro3hv6iclaZhvNtcsJWCads3xpzVsYY465ZLiaBcoEHbBr1OQgFRILdBBJxBSLGh7WEI1CkOMHomFg/640?wx_fmt=png"); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-top: 15px; max-width: 100%; transform: translate3d(3px, 0px, 0px); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 20px; color: rgb(228, 108, 108); line-height: 1; letter-spacing: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-shadow: white 1px 1px, white 1px -1px, white -1px 1px, white -1px -1px, white 0px 1px, white 0px -1px, white 1px 0px, white -1px 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); letter-spacing: 2px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">穷家富养，会毁掉孩子的生存能力</span></strong></h3></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></h3><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">今年夏天，山东潍坊一位70多岁的老奶奶，在街上为孩子找工作的一幕，令人心酸不已。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">她每天奔走于街头，为儿子找工作，她遇见人就搭话，希望能遇见一个好心人，让孩子步入社会。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">她的老伴去世了，和儿子相依为命。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如今全靠自己3000元的退休金过活，而儿子已经在家待了二十年了。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一个四十多岁的男人，有手有脚，却如同寄生虫一样，每天在家不是吃就是睡，要么就是玩游戏。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section> <section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">《特别狠心特别爱》一书中有一段话，是这样说的：</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><blockquote class="" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="75" data-source-title="" style="margin-top: 1em; margin-bottom: 1em; padding-top: 4px; padding-left: 10px; border-left: 3px solid rgb(219, 219, 219); color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); font-size: 15px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">中国父母给予孩子的爱，不是太少，而是太多了，不忍心他们从小体验生活的艰难，也不懂得适当时机向他们索要，因此最终导致子女们一辈子艰难，一辈子想父母索要。</section></section></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">穷家富养的后果，有多可怕？</span></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">那就是将孩子养成一个没有生存能力、不能吃苦、不愿付出、只知啃老的巨婴。</span></strong></span></h3> <section data-tools="新媒体排版" data-id="2752110" data-style-type="undefined" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 50px; height: 50px; vertical-align: top; overflow: hidden; background-position: 50% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: contain; background-attachment: scroll; background-image: url("https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/xTobqJDEK8Ro3hv6iclaZhvNtcsJWCads3xpzVsYY465ZLiaBcoEHbBr1OQgFRILdBBJxBSLGh7WEI1CkOMHomFg/640?wx_fmt=png"); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-top: 15px; max-width: 100%; transform: translate3d(3px, 0px, 0px); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 20px; color: rgb(228, 108, 108); line-height: 1; letter-spacing: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-shadow: white 1px 1px, white 1px -1px, white -1px 1px, white -1px -1px, white 0px 1px, white 0px -1px, white 1px 0px, white -1px 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); letter-spacing: 2px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">真正的教育，是再富也要苦孩子</span></strong></h3></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></h3><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们总以为只有富养，才是好的，但其实穷家穷养，一样能够养出优秀的孩子。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">之前，徐州丰县的双胞胎，被众多网友赞扬。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他们被保送至名校读博，可是在暑假的时候，依然会去妈妈的工厂，帮妈妈干活。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他们穿着旧衣服，在炎热的夏天，帮助妈妈送脚手架，虽然他们的身上，全是泥土和汗水，可是他们依然很开心。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">记者问他们，为什么来工厂做苦力？</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他们说：</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“赚钱是其次，主要是因为妈妈，她为了这个家腰都累弯了，我们只有在工地上，才能亲身体会妈妈多年的辛苦付出。” </span></section> <section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">真正的富养，不是经济，而是精神，“穷家富养”只是学到了表面。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">《奇葩说》中詹青云的一段话说的很好，她说：</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><blockquote class="" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="58" data-source-title="" style="margin-top: 1em; margin-bottom: 1em; padding-top: 4px; padding-left: 10px; border-left: 3px solid rgb(219, 219, 219); color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); font-size: 15px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-bottom: 25px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们以为买了同款kindle，跑鞋，就靠近了榜样，可是我们和榜样之间真实的距离是，她真的有去读书，她真的有去跑步。</section></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">是啊！</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们以为，给了孩子最好的物质条件，孩子的未来，就能和富二代一样。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">可是我们不知道的是，</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">真正富养孩子的，并不是物质，而是精神。</span></strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">正如蔡少芬对两个女儿的养育，有一次，她带着两个女儿爬山，一路山路非常难走，而且到处都是蚊子。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但是孩子们累了的时候，她并没有告诉孩子们，我们不爬了，坐车走。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">而是鼓励孩子们，再坚持一下，继续前进，最终会到达目的地。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">无论我们经济条件如何，只要我们尽自己所能，教会孩子生存的能力，学会感恩，并拥有坚持和勇敢的品质，便是对孩子最好的“富养”。</span></strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; 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