成长★烦人的作业

Maggie HM Sun

一点背景：

双鱼座的小同学，敏感而多思，时不时地冒出些感悟，有时候咂么咂么颇有些许鸡汤的味道！

爱思考，这点儿随我，HIN好👏👏👏。

孩子的成长，就是父母的自我成长与修行。

而孩子写作业，就是对父母的修行最好的检验！💆💆💆

对不对？对不对？对不？对！

老实讲，在加拿大弄点作业挺心虚的，属于师出无名，要多理亏有多理亏，所以小同学可谓时常口诛之，笔伐之！

二年级时，小小的人，才来加拿大一年多，仍旧少年不知愁滋味的年纪，就对作业有了隐隐的不快继而引发的人生的思考也初露端倪，有诗为证(姑且叫诗吧)。

Sunday and Stuff, B.J

Monday to Sunday full of work and play.

But the Sunday is the best better than the rest.

I don’t really know but everyday I have to go.

Through our door and try to be mature.

字里行间，既有玩的乐趣， 学的无奈，又有成长的被动与接纳。

(注：妈妈把写作业的优良传统带到了加拿大，小同学躲过了学校作业，却没能逃脱妈妈的“魔掌”。但是哪里有压迫哪里就有反抗，小同学以圣经中“上帝吩咐人们周日停止工作”为依据，跟我进行有理有据有节的谈判，为自己争得了周日一天的无干扰玩耍时间。）

不得不说，写作业这事儿，就像温水煮青蛙，只要坚持就会习惯！

小青蛙🐸于是在不断加码的作业碾压下，反抗中妥协，妥协中寻找机会反抗。

时光流转，到了三年级暑假！无意发现一文，窥到了小同学一次甚为绝望的无声反抗，以及又一次对人生的妥协😑😑😑。好尴尬啊！

SEE, SEE, SEE，有多无助？“I fell like I am in a prison of despire.” 像坐牢！

有多纠结？我要自由，我要玩！！！“the only way to get out is to finish my homework for that is the key to the dreadful prison which kept me away from my desire.” 可是，但可是，可但是，又清醒地知道不写完不能玩啊！真是难为小同学了！

有多绝望？“I feel it, every second of the minute of the hour of the day of the week of the year of my life.” 分分秒秒，岁岁年年，此生无绝期！

人生啊！

我，就是片叶子，生活，有作业的生活，就是那风，叶子欲静而风不止，悲哀？“I am like a leaf and my life is the wind, for that is my reason to exist.” 不，这就是生活，这就是我存在的意义！这汤够不够鲜？！

还得说，写作业这事儿上，是不存在你浓我浓的亲子关系的，孩子和家长确切的讲是一对天敌，对，就是天敌。长期你捉我逃的动态中找平衡、促发展。

日复一日，量变必然带来质变，但前提是坚持，年复一年！

转眼五年级，小同学已经是个非常训练有素的写作业er了。虽然也是抱怨，虽然也是抵触，虽然也是能拖就拖，但她非常清楚，限期之前一定要完成，逃不过，躲不掉。自己的事情自己得惦记，自己的任务也得自己扛！所以一旦坐到桌前，就能定时定量地完成作业。这，已经算是重大进步了！

于是再看她的关乎作业的文字，就大不同，内心仍旧不免挣扎，但也让人看到了责任和担当！

My Schoolwork, B. J

One Monday night, I finished all my homework and was twisting and turning under the pleasant, wrinkled sheets of my mom’s bed, trying unsuccessfully to sleep. Since I was bored, I just thought about what I was going to do at school the next day. Suddenly, my hand flew up from my side and I smacked my rough, dry forehead with a sound like a hand smashing into a table, I still had incomplete homework!

“Maybe I should just do it the next day,” “Great, now I have to think of another idea.” I muttered.

“Maybe I’ll just ask my mom.” I thought. However, I couldn’t think of a way to propose her help without letting her know that I completely forgot about my homework; if she knew, she would scold me until I fell asleep from boredom. But if I don’t do my homework, my teacher would write my name on the whiteboard for everyone to observe, and I will get extra homework!

After I collected my thoughts, I had a plan. My plan was to do my schoolwork tomorrow morning. “Yes, that is a wonderful plan,” I thought. “But wait, I don’t have time in the morning for this homework unless I want to be late for school for the tenth time in a row, which will be incredibly humiliating for me. Also, I might forget, so the teacher would make me tell her why I didn’t do it, and she doesn’t take “I forgot” for an answer,” I grumbled to myself.

When all my other plans had failed, I just thought to be honest and tell my mom. “Mom, I have to do my school homework because I forgot to earlier!” I exclaimed in an urgent, medium-pitched voice.

“Really Bella, you have to remember, see, this is what I told you about timing. Every Monday, you always start late and then stay up to 12:00. Your planning is absolutely horrible.” She murmured sleepily and was about to continue when I heaved myself drowsily out of bed and staggered out to grab my homework, efficiently cutting my mom off by shutting the door.

An hour later, I strode back into my mom’s bedroom and fell asleep almost instantly.

“I am so glad that I finished my homework.” I thought, relieved that I had nothing to worry about when, suddenly, my teacher announced that the homework was for Friday! However, from the events of the previous night, I learned that I should always haul my schoolwork into my room so that I will never forget about it.

回过头，再看这句，I am like a leaf and my life is the wind, for that is my reason to exist. 我想说，小同学，与其等风来，不如追风而去！恭喜，你已然在路上！